You want to make it work with your girlfriend.Sometimes love isn't enough.It takes a lot of work and effort to build a relationship.You may be single before you know it if you don't put those in.If you spend quality time together, prioritize communication, and practice the art of compromise, you can increase your chances of maintaining your relationship.
Step 1: On a daily basis, work on the relationship.
It is usually the little things that show you love her.Try to do something to show her you care.Making dinner, leaving a nice note, buying flowers, or telling her you appreciate what she does will make her feel special.It is a good idea to go to a couple's counselor or workshop at least once a year.You may think you don't need it, but you may be surprised by how close it is.It is possible to maintain your relationship by reading a relationship book together.
Step 2: Know when to be apart.
When it comes to romantic relationships, the saying "absence makes the heart grow fonder" is true.You can better appreciate one another if you have a day or two to yourself each week.It gives you the chance to become a better partner.Between every couple of days you spend together, a good rule of thumb is to take a day for yourself.
Step 3: Have interests.
Sharing passions forges a stronger bond between you and your partner.Your relationship may suffer if you spend your leisure time doing separate activities.If you and your girlfriend are like night and day, try to find at least one interest that connects you.It's a good idea to plan a standing weekly date with your girlfriend.It's possible that this will translate to binge-watching House of Cards.That's cool if that works for you.If possible, try to do something outside.You can join a couple's social group, go for a hike on weekends, visit local art galleries or museums, read the same book, or work out together in the gym.
Step 4: Learn what she likes to do.
A big part of relationships is a physical connection.Taking the time to learn each other's likes and dislikes is important when it comes to being intimate.Paying attention and trying to please her shows that you care about her.Listen to what your girlfriend says and do more of that.You could ask, "What kinds of things turn you on?" or something of that nature.Ask your girlfriend if she likes that.Is this okay?Keep it coming if she responds favorably.Stop if she says no.When it comes to sexual activity, have an attitude of acceptance and communication.Encourage her to do the same by sharing what you like and don't like.
Step 5: Talk about your needs.
You might be afraid to say what you want to your girlfriend.When she doesn't fulfill your needs, you can become resentful.Encourage her to do the same by talking to her about your desires."I need you to trust me" is a non-defensive statement that you can use to state your needs.You don't respect my privacy.If you didn't use my phone, I would appreciate it.
Step 6: Listen when you know when to.
It is important to listen to what your girlfriend has to say.Before you jump in, let her speak her mind.Showing her you care about how she thinks and feels is important in a relationship.This is not to say you shouldn't defend yourself.Before you say anything, let her get her feelings off of her chest.Your gesture of respect could encourage her to do the same for you.
Step 7: Support us.
It's a good idea to share how you feel about your girlfriend.Let her know that you are happy together.Don't forget to compliment her and tell her how much she means to you.Help her reach her dreams and support her while she is.When she is struggling, bolster her confidence by applauding her successes.She will benefit from being present at important events and occasions.If she's sad, cheer her up by being there for her, listening and not judging her.
Step 8: Use respectful words.
Don't say something that will hurt you.It may be difficult to not do it when you are angry.Fights are normal and healthy in relationships.The use of degrading words and name-calling are not.If you are about to say something that will hurt someone, walk away from the argument.Simply tell her that you need to take a break.It could help to do so.
Step 9: You shouldn't want to change her.
If you want to make the relationship work, you will need to accept your dislikes.This could lead to a lot of compromise on your part.You should not let go of your non-negotiables.Try to come up with an agreement that both of you can live with.She may have her nose in her phone all night while you just want to spend time with her.For instance, one hour where you both turn off your phones, would be a good idea.
Step 10: Examine your expectations.
You may have thought the relationship would be your way or the highway.You might have had unrealistic expectations of how things would be.Trying to get these potentially far-fetched ideals or compromising to something that works for the two of you is more important.
Step 11: If the compromises are fair, you should ask.
Determine if the compromise you are asking of is fair.Some compromises can ruin a relationship.Let her know if you think the compromise is unfair.You should not have to give up what makes you who you are.compromises that make you better and grow as a couple are the ones that your girlfriend should ask of you.It's unfair to ask of one another compromises that make you feel bad about yourself.