Taking on more responsibility and maturing takes time and effort.It is difficult to prove your maturity to your parents as they will want you to enjoy your childhood without taking on too much responsibility.Although your parents don't want you to grow up fast, there are still ways to show your maturity now.You can prove to your parents that you are a responsible and mature kid by taking some extra time to set and achieve your goals, do more chores around the house, and get good grades in school.
Step 1: It's time to start working around the house.
If you already have a list of chores to do around the house, take the initiative and do them.Make an effort to do things around the house if you don't have a list of chores.Make an effort to get things done before anyone asks you to do them, or spend time doing things your family would normally do for you.You are known for not enjoying the chores.It shows your understanding that sometimes people have to do things that they don't like.If you're asked by your parents to clean your room, make sure it's as clean as you can be.It's important to do your housework without complaining.If you don't whine about having to do your chores, you demonstrate your maturity and understand why they must be done.If you hate mowing the lawn but your parents want you to do it often, make an effort to take care of it without being asked.Do chores that benefit everyone.Do the dishes for the whole family.If you see that your dishwasher is full of clean dishes, take the time to put them away.If you notice your living room needs cleaning, vacuum it.
Step 2: It's important to make school a priority.
If you are paid to do a job, treat it as such.Set goals for your future and focus on school work.Whether your goals are to attend college, improve your grades, or both, spend time planning how to achieve them.It is important to give yourself time to study.Your parents don't have to rush you out the door if you are awake and ready to go to school.If you don't finish school related tasks, your parents will.If you can, complete your homework as early as possible, and try to get started on work that may not need to be completed until the following week.Setting goals that help you get good grades will make your parents proud.If you're having a hard time in class, try to reach out for help from your teacher, tutor, or classmates.
Step 3: You can earn your money.
If you want to earn money, ask your parents if you can do jobs around the neighborhood.You can demonstrate to your parents that working for your own money is important to you by walking dogs, mowing lawns, or babysitting.It will show them that you are ready to take on more responsibility.Cleaning out the garage is more involved than your regular chores, so ask your family to do it for you.Explain to your family that you are trying to earn your own money and assign rates for jobs they propose.If you're old enough, you can offer your services to your neighbors.If your neighbors agree to let you do the job, you can rake leaves or shovel snow.
Step 4: You can manage your money.
Whether it's your birthday, a holiday, or money you have earned through hard work, show your parents that you can manage it.This can be a sign of impulsivity and immaturity if you spend money that you've received or earned right away.Your family will respect your decision to save money.Ask your parents to open a savings account for you.A portion of your money should be set aside for savings and a separate portion for spending.While you might want to spend your hard earned money frivolously, you know that saving money is an important skill to have for the future.
Step 5: Control your emotions.
If you start kicking and crying when you get mad, this may be seen as childish behavior.Learning to control how you express your emotions is a big part of showing maturity.Remaining calm and collected in a variety of scenarios will show your parents how mature you are.Be patient with others.If someone has snapped at you, you don't need to retaliate.Walk away if you get angry at home.Don't tell the person who made you angry how you feel.Explain to your parents why you were angry and how you can fix the problem after you've calmed down.
Step 6: When you are angry, tell me your feelings.
Explain to your parents what you feel is unfair treatment.Tell your parents why this upsets you if you are being asked to do a chore more often than your siblings.Practice what you will say before having a conversation with your parents.I have had to do the laundry all week and my sibling has not.Try saying, "I feel that I am doing more than my fair share of the housework and would appreciate some help from my siblings with the chores."Don't argue with your brother or sister.If you really want to argue back, remember that you have a goal, to prove you are mature to your family, and stay away from conflict.
Step 7: Don't let your mistakes get you down.
A true sign of maturity is recognizing that you have made a mistake.Take responsibility for your actions.It is a sign of immaturity to blame other people for your mistakes.Tell your family about what you've done.Let them know that you have the ability to deal with the same situation in the future if you so choose.If you lost control of your temper and yelled at your parents, apologize by saying, "I am sorry, I raised my voice to you when I was angry."I know it's not a good way to deal with your frustration, but I was very upset and you lost your temper.Take responsibility for your actions.If you have made a mistake that has hurt someone, apologize and express your remorse.
Step 8: Speak to your parents.
If you want to demonstrate your maturity, you should have a conversation with your parents about the goals you have set and what you expect to achieve from meeting them.Make sure you show improvement on your school work and help around the house before having this conversation.Explain to your parents that you are trying to be more responsible.Tell your parents how you've accomplished your goals.Discuss your goals with your parents.Listen to what they have to say with an open mind.Talk to your parents about what you want to achieve.If you want a new pet, try saying, "I have been making an effort to keep the house clean to show that I am responsible enough to take care of an animal."I think that the effort I have put into doing extra chores shows that I am dedicated and ready to take care of a new pet.
Step 9: You should make a plan to improve.
If you would just prefer to be seen as a more responsible and mature kid, consider if you are looking to prove your maturity for a specific reason.If you want to earn specific privileges, such as getting a new pet, you need to consult with your parents.Make a list of your goals.Discuss your goals with your parents and ask them for help."I am working towards keeping my room clean and organized at all times, and I hope that this will show that I am responsible."Do you want me to take on any other responsibilities?Make a list of the reasons you want to be mature.Maybe you want a new pet.Do you know what you have already done to deserve these things?Some goals may be more long term than others.Give yourself time to accomplish your goals.
Step 10: Determine if all of your goals are feasible.
Think about the goals you have set for yourself.If your goals are appropriate for your age, ask.Understand that your family may have rules in place for your safety and learn to value them.If your goals directly violate your family's rules, consider whether or not it is a reasonable goal for the time being.To compromise with what your parents think is reasonable, you may need to change some of your goals.If you want to go out with your friends on your own, make sure that you have an adult with you in case of an emergency.If this is the case, you should compromise with your parents.If your parents are in the mall, ask your friends to go to the stores on their own.Building trust with your parents is a great way to show your maturity.Continue to compromise with your parents until you have earned enough trust to do what you want.
Step 11: Don't disrespect your family's rules.
Most likely, your parents don't make rules to keep you out of trouble.Rules are made by your parents to keep you safe.To understand why your parents make the rules they do, is the most mature thing you can do.When you are old enough to do certain things, your parents will know.If you keep working towards achieving your goals, you may be able to do the things you want.Enjoy this time with your parents.Even though your parents won't bend the rules, stay positive.Remember, even though your parents won't bend the rules, they still see all the work you are putting into being a responsible kid.