It is possible if you want to change the way you think and act.The brain is forming new connections all the time.You can start being a better, more positive person by practicing self-awareness and staying aware.
Step 1: You should start to monitor your thoughts on a daily basis.
The beauty of human evolution is that we have two different selves: the primordial one and the evolved one that monitors.You can observe yourself and your thoughts 24/7.Stop for a second and think about the thought that raised the red flag.Was it positive?Destructive?What made it happen?Does it make sense?Is it addictive?As you begin practicing self-awareness, you will notice a pattern in your thoughts.As the thoughts start to come up, write them down.It will be easier to see what your pattern is with this.They could be anything.It's a great way to get rid of the chatter in your head.
Step 2: Think about your thought patterns.
Take a hard look at that pattern after a week.Maybe most of your thoughts are negative, you are critical of yourself or others, or you experience unnecessary thoughts that aren't beneficial to you.It will be different for each person.You can stop it if you identify the pattern.It can stop you in your tracks if you have a realization about yourself.It's not possible to get to a certain place if you don't know where you're going.
Step 3: Everything is a part of a larger cycle.
Many of us think that our feelings lead to our actions.We act these ways because we feel powerless and can't help ourselves.That couldn't be further from the truth.Life results from your beliefs and thoughts, which in turn determine your feelings and actions.The life results shape your beliefs and thoughts, which determine your feelings.It's easy to see that changing one of these factors can change the system.We're powerless is part of the belief that isn't right.You are the only one that has the power.You can change these thoughts, behaviors, and life results.The rest will fall into place if only one change is made.
Step 4: A space between your thoughts and actions is needed.
The cycle can be slowed down.Stop and breathe when you start to feel that pattern.Don't be reactive.What would you prefer to do?Do you have a positive thought in your head?Let's say you're watching TV and you see an ad with a beautiful woman.You think to yourself, "I could never be her."Finish that thought better if you stop for a second."But I have good qualities x, y, and Z, so I'm going to use this as motivation to start working out and feel better about myself."You are getting some reward for your actions.Do you worry constantly?You might feel like you're covering your bases or not getting your hopes up.Is it affecting your sense of self?It's probably safe to be down in the dumps, so you don't have to worry.Do you know what you're getting out of your thoughts?Is it worth it?
Step 5: You should be aware of the words you use in your mind and what you say to others.
Your words can hurt people, and this can have a negative impact on your behavior and thoughts.Tell yourself to stop if they crop up.Just stop.Don't pay attention to something negative that will keep you on track.Positive vibes and love will be what you get in return.Good energy is created by it.If you think something is impossible, it will be.If you open your mind and think you can do anything, you may be able to.Sometimes we get stuck playing tapes."I'm ugly, worthless, depressed, or any number of other things" is what that tape may say.Put in a new one after stopping that tape.What is this one saying?Isn't that fresh air?If it slips back in, be aware of that tape.You can always take it out.
Step 6: You can choose your behaviors.
As a child, you are told to think, behave and to adopt certain beliefs which can affect the type of person you become.You can carry through your fears into adulthood.We get stuck into action-reaction patterns because we don't realize we can interpret the situation and react in many different ways.This is a good time to assess a negative reaction.Why do you think something infuriates you?Would other people do the same thing?How would they react differently?How would they react differently?Why do you react this way?Are you getting anything out of it?What is a way you could react?You can choose to develop your own thought patterns and beliefs that ring true to who you really are, want to be, and are actively working toward.
Step 7: These new, positive habits can be created by developing new thoughts.
You've identified your bad thoughts, stopped them, and replaced them with good ones.You have to keep repeating these new thoughts as often as possible.Just like your old thoughts became habit, it will become habit as well.It will happen if you stay focused and think it's possible.That is what brains do.It is possible to keep a journal, meditate, and talk about this practice with your loved ones.When you remember, it makes this process more concrete, tangible, and a part of your life.Other people are inspired by your dedication to self-improvement and wish to copy it.
Step 8: Control the urge.
There are more than just thoughts that need to change, there are also bad habits and addictions.If you have a habit that needs to be broken, start deconditioning yourself by exposing yourself to your triggers and then resisting.It will be difficult, but it will get easier.You're controlling it.You feel better when you control it.Let's say you're trying to stop eating.You are at home, and it is around the time you would normally snack.Don't crave a food if you see an aroma or picture of it.It can be for 30 seconds or 5 minutes.It's important to do it in a normal situation.A lot of people go to rehab and do well, but eventually get into bad habits.Make your conditions the most effective by keeping them as normal as possible.
Step 9: You can expose yourself to different situations.
If you're an alcoholic trying to quit, it's a good idea to practice quitting in a number of different environments.Take it one step at a time.Don't have that glass of wine when you get home from work.It will fall away in time.Resist at your local bar.That will become normal as well.Next step is parties.You need to face it and learn to overcome it.It's a good idea to do it in different intervals.When cravings come on stronger, they are the ones that present the most risk.Your body will start resisting the urge at all times if you vary up your reconditioning sessions.
Step 10: While still resisting, go through the motions.
You're almost home free once you've gotten this far.It's time to mime your habit and not do it.An alcoholic might sit at a bar and pour a drink.An over-eater might cook a meal for their family to enjoy.You have power over your mind and habit when you hit this stage.Thank you!Going through the motions makes them more real than just thinking about it.It is interactive on a completely different level and requires an intense amount of will power, but it is possible.
Step 11: Come up with an alternative response.
You have to take something and replace it with something else.Your brain needs some kind of reward.You deserve it after all the hard work.If you're sitting at the bar not drinking, have your favorite non-alcoholic drink.Not eating?Iced tea is a refreshing drink.You're not freaked out by the traffic jam?Pop in your favorite music.Anything that makes you feel good will work.This can also be used for thoughts.If your boss yells at you, you can either cry and freak out or get very angry.You do something you enjoy.You call a friend, take a walk, or read a book.Anger won't be a response anymore.Your brain won't recognize it because it has been rendered extinct.It's a new positive thing you do.You win.
Step 12: Meditate.
The benefits of meditation are amazing, and they make it easier to be more aware.They help you stay calm and focused, making it much easier to be positive.When your brain is in the right place, old habits may fall by the wayside.Not into meditation?That's okay.What calms you?Are you reading a good book?Are you playing video games?How about cooking?Then do that.It's good if it puts you in a place like a zen-garden.
Step 13: There is no value in negative thoughts.
Wanting to diet is one thing, but believing that your current eating habits aren't working is another.The person who wants to diet isn't going to get anywhere.The person who believes that their current eating habits aren't working will see success.To reprogram your brain, you have to believe that negative thoughts and habits are pointless.Better actions will follow when you believe this.Negative thoughts lead to negative actions and negative patterns.The silver lining of life is clouded by them.It shouldn't be hard to see that they have no value.Where do they get you?Where do they get us?
Step 14: Think of your brain as a computer.
Your brain is made of plastic.That is a fact.Brain plasticity is the term for your brain changing as it has new experiences.Your brain is like a computer.Information is taken in and used.You should believe in the power of your brain, too, because you believe that your computer does the same.One reason to think of your brain as a computer is that it helps you see that any number of outcomes can be achieved.You input some information into your brain, it sorts through it, and you come up with a solution like a computer.Just like a computer, if you change the way you sort the information, you'll get a different result.You can come up with a completely different operating system if you think outside the box.It is better than the previous system you were using.
Step 15: Don't be sure that you see change.
The idea that negative thoughts have no value is related to this.Your mind needs to be in the right place for your brain to change."I want to lose weight" and " I believe I can do it" are completely different thoughts.You have to believe in yourself.You can change.You will also get it done.You can get started on the positive thinking train with this belief.You will see more opportunities when you believe that something is possible.A light illuminates your world in a golden glow.Things are brighter all of a sudden.Things are moving in a positive direction.You start to believe that you can do it.
Step 16: Every thought that comes into your head should be challenged.
Take your thoughts and challenge them as you get better at this.Is it your thought or belief?Is it your thought or was it handed to you?If you come up with thoughts that aren't yours, challenge them.What is a better thought?What is a better thought?What is a more positive thought?Which would make you closer to who you want to be?Our cultures tend to grow us up in different ways.We're taught to think and act in certain ways.It's up to you to use your highly-evolved brain and put it to work.What is best for you?What do you think about your values?
Step 17: You should get the app for that.
Positive thinking and brain retraining are included in an app for everything.Two examples of technology that can help to keep your mind in the game are Stress-Free Life and I Can Do It.This may be the next best thing if writing in a journal doesn't appeal to you.We need little tricks to get us where we want to go.Whether it's an app, a self-help book, notes on our fridge, or a journal, they all can help keep us in line.It's a good idea to look into more tangible things if you want to reprogram your brain.