We all have things we want to change about ourselves.Maybe you want to lose weight, improve your skills, be happier, or more productive.Whatever the ultimate improvement desired, in order to achieve it you need to identify your specific goals, change and deal with setbacks.
Step 1: Do you have your core values?
Don't forget to write them down, prioritize them, and read them regularly.You should set your goals based on them.
Step 2: Imagine what it would be like then.
Enthusiasm, expectation of successful goal completion, and commitment to self-improvement are enhanced by thinking about future positive and negative possibilities.Thinking about a positive future helps you imagine a reality where you are the best self you can be, while imagining a negative reality results in an awareness of what might happen if you don't meet your improvement goals.Imagine waking up in the morning and being exactly how you want to be.It happened in the middle of the night.How are you different?How does it feel?Who are you with?What are you doing?Imagine what it would be like to have a completely improved self.You can start developing goals based on what you imagine.Maybe you imagined yourself to be fit and confident.What would have been needed for this to happen?
Step 3: Determine what needs improvement and what doesn't.
To know which goals are a top priority, you need to be specific in your goals.Do you have assets that are honest, hard-working, loving?Your liabilities include angry, overweight, and so on.The areas in which you want to make the most improvement may be identified by this.Make a list of your goals.10 being the highest priority for you, rate each goal from 1-10.First, focus on this goal.
Step 4: Get feedback
Enhancing goal-achievement is helped by receiving feedback about what to improve upon.Asking others how you can improve will help you on your journey.Ask your significant other or family members how you can improve yourself.You should only ask people who you trust and those who will take your feelings into account.You may be surprised by their answers.Talk to a trusted person such as a therapist, a religious leader or even a sponsor in a 12 step group.It helps to have an outside party.Talking to others can help us form an accurate picture of ourselves if we are to improve.Pick which suggestions you want to apply to yourself.Try another set if it doesn't work.Nothing works for everyone.You need to find something that works for you.
Step 5: Make good goals.
Specific, measurable, attainable, realistic, and time bound are some of the SMART goals.Your goal could be to lose 20 pounds in 3 months.GetSelfHelp.co.uk has an online resource for creating goals.Break down the goals into smaller ones.If you want to lose 20 pounds, you will need to develop a plan that includes smaller goals such as: lowering daily calories, exercising, and limiting sugar.Start with small goals that achieve the grand goal.Losing 50 pounds seems like a daunting task, but no chocolate for a week may be more viable.
Step 6: Information on how to pursue the change is needed.
Information can be found in books, articles, friends, family, and professionals.When you are ready, you will find a lot of information.Have you made similar changes in the past?Think about how other people have achieved what they want.Ask for help from people who are in the same situation.If you want to lose weight, you can sign up for Weight Watchers at the center.
Step 7: Make sure you are ready to change.
According to the Transtheoretical Model of behavior change, there are four stages of change.It is possible to determine whether you are ready to make a change or need more motivation.The pre-contemplation stage is when there is a problem but you are not aware of it.Everyone has flaws and needs to work on them.If you don't admit your flaws, you will block any chance of improvement.People can be stuck on this step for a long time.If you haven't decided what to change about yourself, you may be in this stage.Change is an essential part of growth and you should embrace it if you are afraid of it.You are making a plan of action after committing to change.If you are working on your goals, you may be in this stage.Making the changes is action.If you work on your plan on a daily basis, you are in this stage.You have a plan and are on your way to your goal.You are maintaining your progress after completing your goal.
Step 8: You should be your own coach.
Self-coaching or checking in with yourself on a daily basis has been linked to increases in self- improvement.Awareness of your current performance and ability to achieve goals can be achieved with daily check-ins.Did I focus on or work toward my goals today?I was wondering if I had a positive attitude today.I wondered if I was kind to myself today.I don't know if I accepted my challenges today.Take time to practice if you're trying to improve.
Step 9: Consider the help of others.
Life-coaching has been associated with positive change and goal-realization if you find self- coaching isn't helping you.In order to help you achieve your goals, therapists and psychologists are trained in interventions.
Step 10: Practice, practice.
It may take a long time for change to come.Continue until your goal is your new reality.On a daily basis, remind yourself of your goals.
Step 11: Be aware that setbacks are normal.
Personal modifications would be easier if change moved vertically.Change doesn't follow a specific path and there may be rocks in the road.It's not common for someone to keep losing weight every single day.Some days you don't lose any weight, and others you gain some.The key is not giving up on your goal.Overall, you lose weight over time.It is reasonable of you to know that you can do anything you want.You should make a list of possible setbacks.There are ways to deal with setbacks.
Step 12: You should focus on what you will do in the future.
It doesn't help you achieve your goals if you dwell on what you did wrong.It helps if you focus on what you can do now and in the future.Rather than letting the rock in your path stop you, focus on moving forward and learning how to better deal with rocks in the future.You can jump over the rocks.It's okay to have a little fluctuation in weight if you want to lose weight and end up gaining a pound over the weekend.I'm going to keep feeding my body healthy foods.Failure isn't evil per se, unlike what most people think.In the short run, it is a bad thing, but in the long run it's helpful.It depends on you.Don't fear failure and just think of it as a potential foundation of a new understanding and strength.Great people fail a lot.
Step 13: Accept and affirm who you are.
People who accept their challenges can be more motivated to change.People who affirm themselves are more able to think about their challenges.Even if you have to list all of them down, recognize your strengths and challenges.Understand that you are an outside observer.If you want to objectively look at yourself, try to observe how you act, speak, and think.Take a look at yourself and what you do.There is a time for this at the weekends.Some people do that before they go to sleep.If you want to see what areas need improvement, write it down, and then read every day for a week until it's fixed.