Romantic rejection can be very painful.People who have been rejected feel the same way as someone who is in physical pain.Even though it can hurt to say no, you can recover from the pain and come back stronger than before.Learn how to respond in the heat of the moment, recover from feeling bad about yourself, and focus on other goals in your life.
Step 1: Accept the decision.
It will cause embarrassment if you try to convince him to change his mind.Don't argue or try to get him to see what he's missing.Say "I'm sad that you're not interested, but I understand and respect your decision."This will show him that you are self-sufficient.
Step 2: Accept your feelings.
You might feel dumb asking him in the first place.You may be devastated because you thought he was the one for you.You may be angry at him and need some space.All of the reactions are okay.Allow yourself to feel the rejection in your body.If you feel like you should feel something else, don't suppress your emotions.The best way to move on from your feelings is to give them space and let them go.You don't have to accept your feelings as true if you acknowledge them.You can acknowledge that you are stupid in the moment, but not in reality.
Step 3: The friendship needs to be recovered.
Things may be awkward between you if you are friends with the guy.If you have a close friendship with the guy, this doesn't have to be the case.You may want to let him know that you're behind him."I hope we can still be friends even though you don't want something more."Would you like to hang out with me after I get some time?I don't want it to be awkward.I want to be friends.How about you?
Step 4: Make an exit.
Don't force yourself to stay if you're really sad about the rejection.If you need to leave, make an excuse.If you want to talk to a girlfriend, you can go home and handle your emotions.He will be awkward to comfort if you use him as a shoulder to cry on.If you're really nervous, you can tell a friend to call you at a specific time so that they can save you.
Step 5: You should be honest and sincere.
It's okay to tell him that you're disappointed and that it may take some time before you can see him again.Asking him to support you emotionally isn't the same thing.Being honest about your feelings will show him that you're still interested in communication and you respect him enough to let him in on your own emotional process.It's good to match that honesty in your response since he was honest with you.
Step 6: Do you want to receive something?
When we want to be in a relationship with someone, we usually mean care, intimacy, and companionship.Try to figure out what you want and see if there are other ways to get it.Do you have a close friend that you can spend more time with?Is there a better fit for these needs for someone else?You can address those needs if you know what you need.
Step 7: It's important to recognize that each situation and person is unique.
You don't mean everyone else will reject one guy.It's a bad idea to think that you're undesirable because it didn't work out with one person.Sometimes guys are not ready for a relationship or the timing is off, so it's possible he doesn't dislike you.Don't make assumptions about yourself because of a rejection.
Step 8: You can make a list of things you like about yourself.
It doesn't say anything about you when a guy rejects you.It shows that you two weren't compatible.Other guys will appreciate what you have to offer.To remind yourself of your worth, make a list of these things.Are you a great cook?Do you feel confident in yourself?Are you financially independent?Are you going to school?Do you already own one?Is it possible to deal with insects and spiders?Guys are afraid of them.
Step 9: Do not blame yourself.
Try not to think about "what you did wrong" or "how you aren't good enough".Don't think you need to change in order to be appreciated because there are guys who will accept you for who you are.He wasn't the one for you if a guy rejected you."personalization" is a mental mistake that people make.This involves thinking that when someone does something, it's a reaction to you.You don't want to personalize the guy's reaction by thinking that it reflects on you.He doesn't mean anything about your self-worth.
Step 10: Take a medication to relieve pain.
The same pathways in the brain as physical pain are activated by social rejection.If you're having a lot of pain over the rejection, take some pain killers.Studies show that it can help.It's not possible to replace your support network of friends and family.Don't try to cope with drugs or alcohol.This won't help in the long run.
Step 11: You need to work on your education.
Do you attend middle school?High school?College?It's important to focus on what really matters in your life, like completing your education and becoming a more mature person.You probably won't have a lot of opportunities to educate yourself.
Step 12: Don't let your goals get in the way of your own.
Have you ever wanted to travel to Europe?Would you like to start exercising?There are things in your life that will make you happy and distract you from the pain of rejection.It's okay to mope for a while.It's normal to feel bad after being rejected.If it takes you a few days to get back on your feet, don't be too hard on yourself.
Step 13: Spend time with people you care about.
Rejection hurts us in our sense of belonging.Reunite with your friends.You can attend a church or a reading group.It can be helpful to join a chat room.You will feel better about the rejection if you surround yourself with good people.
Step 14: Deal with emotional side effects.
Anger and aggression can be caused by rejection.Expressing yourself in words is one way to deal with these emotions.A journal, posting on an online forum, or talking to your best friend are all good ideas.Deep breathing is practiced.One way to reduce anger is to remember to breathe.Your mind will follow if you calm your body.If you need more help, you should see a counselor.If you learn to handle your emotions and promote your self-esteem, you will be less likely to be rejected in the future.
Step 15: Let go and practice.
It's normal to be rejected by a guy.If you feel like you can't get him out of your head, practice these techniques to make a quick recovery and get on with your life.Was he smart, funny, and cute?Is he a good person to listen to?You should acknowledge what made you want to be with him.You can grieve the loss of not going out with him.Future experiences with him are closed off now.It's okay to be sad.Now is the time to ask what isn't closed off.Are you interested in any other guys?Maybe you'll have more time to work on your relationships if you don't.Maybe you will have more time to have fun or take care of your responsibilities.Instead of mourning the past, shift your imagination to the future.