Everyone has change in their life.It can mean anything from moving to a new place, having a major life event upset your life, or dealing with a relationship.Learning to adjust to changes will help you feel more in charge.
Step 1: Allow yourself to feel sad.
You won't be doing yourself any favors by avoiding the feelings moving will bring up.It's sad to leave your old life behind, but you're excited.All of these are natural.When everything gets too much, take a break.It can be as simple as sitting on a park bench for 15 minutes.Don't push those feelings away when you're reminded of your old life.Even if it means crying, take the time to sit with them.You can have a better time in your new place of residence if you work through your emotions.
Step 2: Release your expectations.
You have ideas about what you want your life to be like.Chances are that isn't how your life is going to be.That doesn't mean that your life is bad.It's going to be what it is and you have to let go of your expectations.Be present.Don't plan how you're going to make the future better, or remember how good the past was, just enjoy the moment.Soon you won't even notice it.Enjoy the fact that you are seeing new things.The old place and life will be different in this new place.You can't recreate what you had.It's a good idea to stop and compare the new place to the old one.It doesn't mean bad to remind yourself that things are different.There is a chance that the new place will be good for you.You probably won't fit in right away.It will take some time to find friends.It will take time to learn the new customs.It will take a while to find your favorite bakery, bookstore, or gym.
Step 3: Get to know your surroundings.
Getting to know a new place is one part of adjusting.You aren't going to make new friends and find new ways of being if you stay in your house or apartment thinking about the past.Get out there!You can join an organization that you enjoy.It could be anything from volunteering for a group to a library book club.If you are religious, there are many places to find a new community.Musical groups, knitting circles, and other artistic groups are political organizations.Good bets.You should go out with your colleagues.If you've moved to a new place because of a job change, you should invite your colleagues to go out with you.You never know who you'll meet or be introduced to if you don't build lasting friends.Talk to people.You can make small talk with people at the grocery store, the coffee shop, and the bus stop.Getting to know a bit about the place you live in will allow you to start meeting people.
Step 4: Prepare for culture shock.
It's going to be different even if you're moving between cities.If you're moving to a new country, from the town to the city, it's even more true.You have to be prepared for the different places.Match your pace to the environment you're in.If you've just moved from a big city to a small town, the pace of life and what people are interested in are different.It can seem like the people in your new place are speaking a different language than you are.This requires learning a new lingo, new abbreviations, and new little quirks of language.Prepare to make mistakes and ask for clarification.
Step 5: You should keep in touch with your old life.
You shouldn't cut off the old life just because you have a new one.It can cause feelings of sadness, nostalgia, and regret at first, but connections to your old life can help bolster you in the new times.You can use technology to stay in touch.It is easier to keep in touch with people in far away places nowadays.Text, use social media, etc.It's important to keep up with your friends and family.It is possible to alleviate feelings of loneliness by getting a nice message from a friend.Don't let your old life get in the way of your new one.If you only talk to your old friends and family, you'll miss out on meeting new people in your new life.It's important to reach out to people in your new place.
Step 6: Get active.
It's a good way to keep your health and your brain happy, and also to get to know your town and to meet people.Go for walks.If you want to get a feel for your new living area, pick a new area to explore.You can join an exercise group.Join a yoga class or go for a jog in the morning.You will get to know them.
Step 7: It's a good idea to be by yourself.
Being alone is a key part of being okay with the move.No matter how friendly you are, how many groups you join, and where you go, you're going to find yourself alone and lonely at times.This is okay!It will not last forever.Don't depend on other people for support.
Step 8: Give yourself time.
It takes time to get used to something.You will feel stressed and lonely at different times.That's normal.The honeymoon phase is the first phase of getting acclimatized to your new space.It's when everything is new and exciting.This lasts about three months.The negotiation stage is when you begin to see the differences between your old home and your new place.When feelings of uncertainty, loneliness, and homesickness start to intrude, this is often.This usually follows after the honeymoon phase, but sometimes you start right into it.The adjustment phase occurs after about six to twelve months in your new place.You're feeling a bit more at home when you've developed your new routines.When you feel more comfortable in your new home, it takes until a year after the move to reach the mastery phase.It can take even longer.Each person is not the same.
Step 9: Take it one day at a time.
If you try to take on too much, you won't be able to deal with the changes.The more you're focused on the future, the more it's going to hurt.If you've lost your job, don't try to deal with the big picture at once.You will end up overwhelmed at sea.Take each moment as it comes.You can use one moment to update your resume, use the next to look on the internet, or talk to people about getting a new job.Depression or anxiety disorders can be caused by living in nostalgia for the past or fear of the future.If you can't stay in the present because of overwhelming anxiety or depression, you should seek help.People who have had an intense life change, or already have one of these issues, can find themselves getting depressed or anxious.
Step 10: Care for yourself.
A lot of people forget to take care of themselves and make themselves feel safe.This needs to be an intimate kind of caring that will allow you to relax and be wrapped in a warm blanket.Some suggestions are to make yourself a cup of tea, breathe in the steam, feel the warmth slide down your throat and pool in your belly, wrap yourself in a warm blankets or use a heating pad, do some, but you'll know what works best for you.Accept the negative or upsetting thoughts that intrude on your moment and let them go.You should tell yourself that you'll deal with those thoughts later, but right now you need to find comfort for yourself.
Step 11: Allow yourself to feel something.
It is going to be fraught with emotions no matter what kind of change it is.If you ignore these emotions and try to avoid them, they will return stronger and more painful later on.It doesn't mean you have to wallow in grief and anger, but you need to allow yourself to grieve.You will tend to cycle through emotions.Don't turn to "painkillers": this can mean drugs or alcohol, but it can also mean watching t.v. Each time you deal with them will make them pass more quickly the next time.Over-eating because it helps numb some part of you, or even diving into a romantic relationship, is excessive.Painkillers help you to numb out instead of dealing with your feelings.
Step 12: Take some time to think about the change.
Changes mean different things to different people at different times in their lives.Reflecting on your feelings, reflecting on what has changed and why can give you a handle on processing the emotional turbulence that comes with change.Journaling can be used to reflect on the change.It chronicles your journey through the change, and it helps you to get your feelings out.You can look back on how you handled the previous change and what you thought about it.
Step 13: You can find someone to talk to.
Talking things out with someone can be comforting, but it can also lead to insights about the change and yourself that you might not have had before.Look for someone who has been through what you're going through.Someone who can help you see that your feelings are legitimate will be a sort of mentor to you.Insight and help keep you on track can be offered by them.Support groups and religious organizations are great for people who are dealing with illnesses and the death of a loved one.It's a good place to find someone who knows what you're going through and who can help guide you.
Step 14: It's up to you to dream for the future.
You do want things to look forward, even if you don't want to worry about the future.To create it, you have to decide what you want your future to look like.You can use daydreams to see what you want to do.Let your mind wander and see how you can make the most of this life change.You can get ideas from the internet or magazines.Potential housing ideas, job ideas and how to incorporate them into your own life can be looked at.
Step 15: Make small improvements.
It is easy to work in small steps.Taking on too much at once can be overwhelming.To make your life a little better is what you want to do as you adjust.Eating better, exercising to help raise the happy-making chemicals, making better use of your time, and making sure you get more out of a day are some of the small adjustments that can be made.
Step 16: Relax in your life.
Taking long walks, yoga, meditation, and other relaxation techniques can help to reduce stress and make it easier to deal with changes in life.It's a good technique to use because it helps to calm your mind, lower your stress, and it can be done anywhere.If you're just starting out, it's a good idea to pick a quiet spot, set a timer for 15 minutes, and sit comfortably.Relax deeply.You should focus on your breath.If you notice that you're being distracted by your thoughts, return your focus to your breathing and acknowledge them.Another relaxing technique is yoga.Not only does it incorporate meditation into its form, but it's a great way to get exercise, to move your body, and work out any kinks in your muscles or back.
Step 17: There will always be changes.
Changes are what life is about.Changes that take you by surprise will always happen regardless of how prepared you are.It will be harder to adjust to change in the long run if you hang out to your current life and way of doing things.Again, this doesn't mean denying your feelings about changes, but it does mean that you accept these feelings as part of the change.
Step 18: You have to adjust to a new relationship.
The beginning of a relationship can be exciting.If you want the relationship to go anywhere, you need to keep your head.Slowly move.When you've only just started seeing one another, you don't want to plan your future right away.If you find it hard to decide on your children's names just a few months into the relationship, take a step back and remind yourself to stay in the moment.Don't get clingy.You're going to want to spend a lot of time with this new person, but it's not healthy.Don't hang out with this other person if you constantly call and text.You won't tire of one another so quickly because this will keep the relationship charged.You should maintain your own lives.Keep in touch with your friends, your work, and your own habits.You should do things together, but not at the same time.You won't be overwhelming one another with attention if you keep having lots to talk about.
Step 19: A change in a relationship can be dealt with.
Relationships change.You can cope with the change, but there's nothing you can do about it.It could be anything from your partner becoming messy when they used to be neat, to your spouse deciding that they don't want children even though they did.If the problems are small they should be addressed as soon as possible.If your partner has become messy and doesn't clean up after themselves, talk to them and use "I statements."When I end up having to put all your clothes away, it's really frustrating for me because I didn't use any of them.Accepting the difference is a key part of adjusting to the change.You can either go with your partner's feelings on this issue, or you can meet somewhere in the middle.Discuss the impact of the change on your relationship.If you don't want children with your partner, it could mean that the relationship needs to end, or you could decide to not have children at all.
Step 20: Stay in a relationship long distance.
It's easier for people now than it used to be.It can take time and effort to adjust to a long-distance relationship and you need to be prepared to invest time into it.Talk to one another.This is the most common problem in long-distance relationships.You should talk about the things that are important to you, the problems that come up in the relationship, and what matters in your life.Don't deal with doubts.Sometimes you're not going to trust the other person and other times you will doubt them.Unless you have evidence that something is going on, the best thing you can do is to complain to a friend about your doubts.It helps to get them out in the open.They should spend time together.Make sure you have time for each other.Send postcards and letters to each other while they talk on the phone and over the internet.Get to see one another in person on specific dates.
Step 21: You should be able to move in with one another.
This can be a big change in a relationship and needs to be treated with caution.Despite the inevitable road bumps, you should feel comfortable very quickly.You will change your mind about moving in a couple days after you do so because it is scary.One key thing to being comfortable together is that you don't hide the un-sexy and necessary things like tampons and pads, or that pair of really atrocious underwear you have.The more open you are about those things, the more comfortable you will both be.The routines are going to change.You're going to have to be prepared for that.You're going to have to figure out a lot of things, like who does which chores around the house, where your things are going, and so on.It will be a lot of negotiation.Give one another space.To give each other space to deal with the emotions and feelings that are going to arise from this change is part of adjusting to moving in together.
Step 22: Don't deal with a break up.
Even if you were the one to break it off, you will need time to grieve the end of the relationship.It takes time to move on from a break-up.If you want to adjust to your new single status, you should take space from the other person.Deleting them from your phone, blocking their posts on Facebook, and staying away from their favorite haunt are all part of this.You're going to feel caught by them the more you talk to them.Find yourself.If you've been in a relationship for a while, you start to lose your individuality and become part of a couple.It's time to figure out who you are without them.Try new things.This will help you meet new people and keep your mind off them.It's a good idea to be careful about rebound relationships.You don't want to jump from one relationship to another without taking time to grieve the end of the first relationship.It's a sure way to hurt both you and the new person.