People want to listen more and talk less.It is possible to gain information, learn more about others and express yourself concisely by listening more.
Step 1: Speak when it's important.
Do you think what you're saying is important?When you're not contributing to the conversation, you should avoid talking.People listen to people who are careful with their words.Someone who is always sharing their opinion may lose people's interest.If you have a tendency to talk too much, you may have to share more information.
Step 2: Speak to fill the empty space.
People fill empty space by speaking.It is possible to speak in professional situations to ease your anxiety about silence.You don't need to speak just to fill space.You don't have to make small talk if you and your co-worker are in the break room at the same time.If your co-worker doesn't seem interested in talking, they might not want to be around you.It's okay to smile and let the silence go.
Step 3: Think about what you say.
If you talk a lot, you may say the first thing that comes to mind.Learning to speak less requires thinking about your words.Think about the words you're going to say before you say anything.If you learn to keep certain things to yourself, you will speak less.People reveal information in order to keep it private.If it's something personal, pause when you think of adding something.You can always share new information later, but you can't keep it private once you've shared it.
Step 4: You should be aware of the time when you speak.
It's possible to speak less if you have a rough idea of how long you've been talking for.After about 20 seconds of speaking, you're at risk of losing the attention of the person listening to you.Listen in after this point.They're losing interest.Look at body language.If the listener is getting bored, they may check their phone.Their eyes may wander.Give the speaker a chance to share if you wrap it up in the next 20 seconds.Try not to talk for more than 40 seconds at a time.The longer this is, the more irritated the person may be.
Step 5: Do you speak out of fear?
People talk too much because of social anxiety.Pay attention to what you're saying.Are you feeling anxious?Work on other ways if it's true.Take a break when you find yourself speaking too much.How are you feeling?Are you nervous?If you're anxious, you can do things like count to 10 in your head or take deep breaths.It is possible to give yourself a pep talk before social events.It's okay to be nervous, but you should relax and have fun.If social anxiety is a problem for you, see a therapist.
Step 6: Speak to impress others.
People tend to talk too much in work situations.Think about whether you're trying to show off or not.If you talk too much to impress others, try to remember that they will be more impressed by what you say.Don't talk about yourself too much when you can contribute something useful to the conversation.
Step 7: The speaker should be the focus.
Don't look at your phone or the room in a conversation.Do not think about what you're going to do after work.You should only pay attention to the speaker.You will be able to listen better as you focus on what's being said.Most of the time, keep your eyes on the speaker.Remember to return to the present and listen if you find other thoughts creeping in.
Step 8: Keep eye contact.
Eye contact shows you're paying attention.Look at the person's eyes as they talk.Eye contact shows that you're paying attention.A lack of eye contact can be rude.Cell phones can often demand our attention if they make noise or give off notifications.If you're talking to someone, keep your phone in your pocket or purse.Eye contact can tell you if you're boring.You might be talking too much if someone breaks eye contact.Give the speaker a turn.
Step 9: Think of what the speaker is saying.
Listening is not passive.It's your job to listen to what the speaker is saying.Try not to make a decision while you do so.Wait your turn to speak even if you disagree with what's being said.Don't think about how you'll respond to the speaker.It is possible to picture what is being said.Images in your mind represent what the speaker is saying.You can use key words and phrases while the speaker is talking.
Step 10: Clarify what the speaker is saying.
It will be your turn to share in any conversation.Make it clear you were listening.Say what the speaker said and ask any questions you have.Do not repeat what the speaker said.You can rephrase what they said.Active listening is meant to help you pay attention to the speaker and let them know you're listening.Active listening can be used to make your opinions known.Say something like, "So, you're stressed out about the upcoming office party."Next, ask a question."Where do you think the stress is coming from?"Do you want to talk about that?As you listen to the speaker, be compassionate and non-judgmental.Without giving up your own position, you can express respect and validation.
Step 11: It is necessary for you to express yourself.
Don't take speaking less to mean not asserting and expressing yourself.Don't hesitate to speak up if you have a serious concern or opinion.Knowing when it is valuable to share is part of speaking less.If you're going through a serious problem in your personal life, it's a good idea to share it with others.If your opinion is valuable, you should share it.Sharing a strong opinion about something at work can be beneficial to your boss and co-workers.
Step 12: Don't use eye contact too much.
Eye contact is important.Constantly eye contact can become too intense.People tend to associate eye contact with confidence and attentiveness, but overdoing it may make you appear distrustful.Hold someone's eye contact for about 7 to 10 seconds and then look away.Eye contact may not be appropriate in certain cultures.Eye contact can be disrespectful to Asian cultures.If you're meeting someone from a different culture, make sure to read up on how to behave in public.
Step 13: When listening, keep your mind open.
Everyone has their own opinion of what's right and normal.Sometimes the person you're listening to may say things that you don't like.It's important to keep judgement behind you while you're listening.If you find yourself making judgements about someone, remember to focus on the words.You can look at the information later.When listening, leave judgement behind and focus on the speaker.