How To Not Let Your Life Revolve Around Your Boyfriend
You might need to be with your guy 24/7.All relationships need space to breathe and grow, even though this can be fun initially.If you spend all your time with your guy, how can you do a good job at work?You aren't just your boyfriend's boo, you're so much more!Get some alone time, manage your other relationships and responsibilities, and build a healthy dynamic with your guy, to maintain your identity outside of the relationship.
Step 1: You should be spending time doing hobbies instead of your boyfriend.
Before you met him, you may have enjoyed scuba diving, reading or dancing.Do you do those things less often now that you are together?Your interests are a part of who you are.You can explore these hobbies away from your partner.Maybe you've been wanting to try yoga, but your boyfriend doesn't like it.Do it without him.
Step 2: Take a break every day.
You might not get a chance alone if you live with your boyfriend or spend most days together.You should spend some time each day doing something other than him.Take a walk, soak in a hot bath or run.Encourage him to take timeouts as well.You can tell him that he has had a long day.It is possible to take a day each week to spend time with your friends or on your own.
Step 3: Meditate.
When you meditate, you only focus on your body and breaths.It is a great way to let go of stress.If you find yourself thinking of your boyfriend a lot, this can be a good way to stop.If you don't know how to meditate, try an app like Headspace or Calm.
Step 4: Make plans without him.
It is not necessary for you to spend every waking moment with your man.You have to make plans without him.Do your girlfriends want to go on a trip this summer?Don't plan it!Have you been meaning to visit your grandma?Go see her!It is nice to include your boyfriend in some of your plans, but remember that he does not have to be a part of all of them.
Step 5: Sometimes, turn off your phone.
When you get home, what will you talk about?Instead of focusing on him when you are apart, focus on what is in front of you.Pay attention in class, take notes in meetings, and give your life outside the relationship your full attention.Try to only check your phone for thirty minutes at a time.While you are away, make sure to check in with your man once or twice a day.
Step 6: Spend time with your friends.
Call or text your friends to plan fun nights out.Don't tell them all about your relationship when you talk.You have more going on than that, honey!It's a good idea to spend a few minutes updating them about your boo.If you're in a relationship, you can spend more time talking about it.Ask your friends what is going on.You must be a friend if you have one.
Step 7: Make new friends.
You don't have any other close relationships, so you spend a lot of time with your boyfriend.It is time for a change, though that is understandable.You can make friends at the places you already go, like the gym, book club, or place of worship.At the gym, you might approach someone and say, "Hey, I saw you were wearing a Duke shirt the other day."I am a big fan.Ask them if they went to school there and then ask them to hang out.You can make friends at a place of worship if you join a small group.Many churches have small groups for people of different ages.
Step 8: You should check-in with your family.
Family is the biggest support system you may have.You should call your mom if you haven't spoken in a few days.Maybe you have a cousin who's birthday is coming up.Staying true to yourself while in a relationship can be done by connecting with your family.
Step 9: You should focus on school and your career.
When at work or school, use your time wisely.You are also an employee or a student if you are your boyfriend's partner.If he decides to leave you tomorrow, your job and education will be with you.Don't be lazy or hard-working!Get to work early and leave late.Take notes in meetings and keep a to-do list.Do all your readings, study every day, and complete your homework to the best of your ability.
Step 10: Set goals that aren't related to your boyfriend.
Buying a house or having a baby are some of the goals that you want to achieve with your boyfriend.Don't forget about your goals apart from him.Put steps into place to begin achieving them.If you want to become a lawyer, you need a four-year degree and good grades.You need to apply to law schools after taking the LSAT.Short- and long-term goals should be set by you.A goal for this week is to go to the gym three times.It is possible to get a promotion at work.
Step 11: Take a look at what makes a relationship healthy.
You might be in a healthy relationship, but you don't know it.The ability to compromise being able to have your own identity are some of the characteristics of a healthy relationship.
Step 12: Talk to your needs.
Codependency is one of the issues that might cause your desire to be around your boyfriend a lot.Codependency is when a member of the relationship is not self-sufficient.Let your boyfriend tell you what he needs too.Maybe you want to be with him a lot because he cheated on you in the past.He needs to be faithful and honest with you.He might ask that you be willing to forgive him.
Step 13: You should check in with your boyfriend every few weeks.
Regular check-ins are needed to assess your relationship.Ask him, and yourself, some questions like, "Are you happy?" and "What do we need to work on?" if you are both unhappy.
Step 14: You should communicate your boundaries.
Speak up for yourself!Let your guy know that doing something that hurts you is not okay.You could say, "Dave, I saw that you liked bikini pics of your ex on social media."I feel disrespected by that.I will ask you not to do that again.
Step 15: Encourage him to hang out with his friends.
Your boyfriend also needs your space.Tell your guy to go when his friends call.You will benefit from the more fun he has.
Step 16: Your relationship is only one part of your life.
You are more than your partner at the end of the day.You are a friend, worker, student, sibling, and beautiful human being.You will still be you no matter what happens with your boyfriend.Hold onto that!