Do you think you are better off as friends?It might feel like you'll never find someone better, but there are ways to move on.There are some healthy ways to cut your emotional ties when you fall out of love.
Step 1: Allow yourself to be sad.
Falling out of love is a process of grieving.It's normal to feel that loss.If you try to act normal, you will have an emotional struggle.To be sad for a while is a good way to fall out of love.You should give yourself time to process your feelings.If you can, take a few days off of work, and do whatever brings you comfort, as long as it is not harmful.Sleep, watch sad movies, or eat ice cream.Pain will eventually get better if it becomes unbearable.
Step 2: Discuss the relationship.
There were good and bad things about being in love with that person, so you need to acknowledge that in order to let go of the relationship.You will need to think about the new opportunities that will be available to you now that you appreciate the good things.In the heat of grief, you may be romanticizing the person and forgetting about his or her weaknesses.It's important to remember.To be grateful for the ways that your love changed you and helped you to grow as a person, but also recognize if there are areas where it hindered your growth or made you into someone you don't want to be.As you grow and learn, you can take these lessons.
Step 3: For a while, be alone.
You shouldn't rush into another relationship or be distracted by friends and activities.If you want to be able to fall out of love in a healthy way, you need to process and deal with the pain you're in.Seek emotional and social support from friends and family when you balance your time between thinking about what you want and need and then pursuing those things.It's okay to spend time with your friends if you need someone to talk to.Someone who will let you vent about the relationship but also tell you the truth about what they see on the outside is a good person.Good advice from a trusted friend can help you to think about your future, if you're open to it.Don't spend a lot of time thinking about the break up, what went wrong, or what your ex is up to.You can move forward by focusing on yourself.
Step 4: Get rid of your feelings.
Emotions can be a part of the healing process.You don't need to share these feelings with anyone unless you want to, but at least getting them out will help you.You can keep a journal, write poetry, draw a picture, learn to play a song, or take up spoken word poetry.You can express your pain and also make something beautiful out of it.You can visit a museum, theater, or concert if you feel uninspired.Sometimes seeing or hearing other artists' interpretations of heartbreak can help you understand it as a universal experience that bonds you to the rest of humanity and makes life worth living.You never really loved if you never experienced loss.
Step 5: The important things should be kept.
It's important to not get rid of things that remind you of that person when you're trying to move on and get back to life.In order to maintain a positive and healthy perception of your relationship, keep a few reminders of the best parts of it, such as that shell you found on the beach or a photograph of you together at that New Year's party.It's a good idea to keep these things, but you may not be ready to see them soon.Put the items you keep together in a single location and then put them somewhere out of the way.You can take them out again when you're ready.Digital items can be saved and stored on your computer.
Step 6: Don't get rid of anything else.
You'll want to get rid of everything else once you've picked out the things to keep.To truly get over someone, you need to be able to ignore the constant reminders of that person.Give the other person's stuff back if you have it.Untag yourself from pictures with him/her on Facebook, remove pictures from your own Facebook that remind you of him or her, and generally do away with extra digital items as well.Studies have shown that keeping items like this prolongs the grieving process and makes it more difficult to recover.
Step 7: Don't look at the person.
If you want to get over someone, you need to sever ties until you are in a safe emotional place and can be friends again.In addition to being an emotional state, love causes chemical changes in your brain similar to a drug addiction, and every time you see your ex or are reminded of him/her, it is enough to reinforce the addiction.Don't text, call, or ask your friends what the other person is doing, it's not right.Think about you instead of the other person.It is recommended that you take a break from all contact with the other person for at least 30-90 days.Unfriend the person on social media.It will be harder for you to fall out of love with the person if you keep an eye on them.You can think about taking care of yourself if you break your social media ties with him/her.
Step 8: It's a good idea to avoid mutual friends for a while.
It will be harder for you emotionally to hang out with your friends after cutting ties.Explain to them that you need to take a break and spend some time away from them until you feel better.Good friends will get it.If you have friends who post a lot of photos of your ex on Facebook, this may include mutual friends.Hearing little reminders of your relationship prolongs the grieving process.Take a social media break until you've had time to heal, or temporarily block mutual Facebook relationships if you can't cut off ties with them.
Step 9: It will take time before you are friends again.
It's a good idea to give it some time before you start acting like friends again if you had a really good relationship and things ended on good terms.It will be hard to force yourself out of love with the person if you spend time together immediately.It can take several years before you are able to be friends again after falling out of love.You might have to wait until both of you are in love with someone else before you can be friends again.If the break-up was not mutual, it's impossible to be friends again.
Step 10: Don't be afraid to explore yourself.
You can get a better picture of who you are without this relationship clouding your judgement.You can explore your strengths and weaknesses.You might want to rethink your priorities.Maybe you thought you'd be with that person for the rest of your life, but now you want something else.In this case, friendship is a good thing to explore.You may be able to let certain friends lag that you really don't want to lose.This is a good time to fix them.Do you remember who you were before you met your ex?Maybe he or she didn't like theater, but you preferred short hair.You may have put hobbies, friends, or parts of your personality on the back burner while you were with your ex, and now that you are single again, you should be able to choose which aspects of yourself you want to keep.
Step 11: Be your own person.
If you want to be happy and have better luck in future relationships, you'll need to improve your skills on your own.You'll have more confidence if you're more self-reliant.Now is the time to do things for yourself.Do you think of yourself as free?Do things you've always wanted to do but never got around to.Take yourself out for a meal or a movie.It's even better if you eat food or see a movie, but you know your former love wouldn't approve.
Step 12: Try new things.
New things to do will make you happy because you're getting out and enjoying new things, and they'll also help you forget your former love and learn to be happy on your own.You can learn a new skill, volunteer or pick up a hobby.Or use the internet to learn something new.You don't know what you want to do next.You should travel as much as you can.Traveling is a great way to build new memories and experiences.If you focus on the new experiences, you'll forget about your past troubles and experiences.Traveling doesn't have to mean hopping on the next plane to Paris; you can travel locally as well.You have to get out and do things you have never done before.
Step 13: Accept that it wasn't meant to be.
To accept that it wasn't meant to be is an important part of moving on.Things would not have gotten better if that person couldn't love you or if they were making anyone unhappy, so you have to be aware of that.You should be in a relationship where that person loves you as much as you love him or her and that you fulfill each other like no one else can.The good things that came out of the relationship were a chance to know your own heart better, and to learn what you need in a partner.When you are grateful that you had the chance to love this person, you will be able to heal from your grief.
Step 14: Meet people you haven't met before.
If you want to find a better match for yourself, you need to put yourself out there.You shouldn't rush it because it can take time.When you feel like going out, don't do anything that makes you uncomfortable.You can meet new people by going to bars and clubs, joining a church or civic group that shares your interests, or volunteering.Keep an eye out for people you may have overlooked in the past.You should be open to new people.
Step 15: Date again.
Learning to leave that other love behind is an important part of falling in love.It's better if you date casually for a while, because you don't have to date seriously.It is better if you don't break someone else's heart by being unable to commit, as many people will need a rebound period.When you say that you love and respect yourself, you will know you are ready to date again.We attract people to us who will treat us the same way we treat ourselves.You can't attract a person who will love you for who you are if you're full of self-doubt.
Step 16: You don't need to fall out of love.
Not having love work out can be very painful, but it doesn't mean you have to fall out of love.You may never be able to fall out of love if it was true.You can move past that love, live your life without being dependent on it, and find new love.Don't let your feelings get the best of you.You shouldn't try to make yourself dislike the person you loved in order to move on.You are allowed to be angry if she harmed you.It is a good idea to forgive the other person, not for him/her, but for you.It is toxic to let hate into your heart and may ruin your enjoyment of your life and future relationships.Don't look for fault in the other person.Don't make lists of everything that was wrong with him or her.Don't be mean to the other person.Don't think that you're better off.Negative emotions will be created by these things, not positive experiences.
Step 17: Don't fall in love again.
Your heart will heal if you fall in love again.New love will show you how wonderful love is.It's important that you find love with someone who can return your feelings in a way that your former love couldn't.This is what you deserve.Don't feel bad if you fall in love with someone else after meeting someone who knows you and loves you.Even books of fairy tales have more than one story in them, and our hearts are books with many pages.It does not mean that something is wrong with you if you don't fall in love again for a long time.It takes some hearts longer to heal.Make yourself happy.