Are you fighting with your siblings?Sometimes we fight with the people closest to us, and sisters are no exception.If your sister is teasing and being mean to you, it can be hard to be kind and caring.You can change your relationship and interactions by showing kindness to your sister.
Step 1: Write a card for her.
Your sister might not know that you are trying to repair your relationship with her.You can tell her how much you love her by writing a card.You can either buy her a card or make one.After she reaches a milestone, you can give her a card.Maybe she got a new job or all A's on her report card.Let her know that you are proud of her.
Step 2: Purchase her a gift.
Buying a gift for your sister is a great way to show you care.Buy her a gift that she likes and dislikes.Get her a pair of earrings or a sweater if she has been eyeing them.Consider her favorite color when buying gifts for her.You can give her a gift as well.Handmade gifts can be more thoughtful than those bought in stores.You can check out the pins on pinboard for cool gifts.Don't buy her a gift to bribe her into being nice, but do so to let her know you're thinking of her and love her.
Step 3: You should greet your sister with a smile.
A smile can help encourage niceness in others.When you see your sister for the first time in a day, smile and say hello, even if she ignores you.Her interactions with you could change if she feels that you are really happy to see her.It is possible to acknowledge that you are listening to her by leaning your head to one side.
Step 4: You can share with your sister.
It's possible that you fight with your sister because she always wants to use your things.Show kindness by allowing her to borrow things.If she has broken or damaged your items in the past, it's a good idea to exercise caution.If she is careless with your items, you may only allow her to borrow things that you don't put much value in.It's worse to tell your parents if your older sibling takes something from you.You can solve the problem without your parents.You might get closer to your sibling if you do this.Discuss boundaries with your sister if you have had problems in the past with her borrowing things without your permission.You can say something like, "I love you and don't mind sharing with you, but when you take things without asking, it really bother me."I will make sure to ask you for permission in the future if I want to borrow something from you.
Step 5: She should be invited to spend time with your friends.
If you don't invite your sister to hang out with you, she may be upset.It would be great if you could ask her to join you occasionally.You can invite her to see a movie or go to the mall with you.She will probably like the gesture.
Step 6: If she needs it, help her.
Sometimes people need help.If you see that she is overwhelmed, give her an arm.A thoughtful gesture like this can be a great way to show her kindness.Helping others can make you feel better.If you know the material, you can help her clean her room or assist with her homework.If she doesn't want to, you can ask for help from your sibling.
Step 7: She can decide what she watches on TV.
If a family only has one TV, many fights between siblings have erupted over it.If you can, allow her to pick what you watch more often or find new shows to watch together that you both enjoy.It's also possible to compromise, as well.For the last 30 minutes, allow her to pick the next show.
Step 8: She should be taken out to eat or see a movie.
If you take your sister out for a meal, she will appreciate it.You can make her a snack or cook her something if you can't take her to dinner.She can show her kindness by watching a movie with her.
Step 9: You should treat her the way you want to be treated.
When you show your sister the same level of love and affection that you want to show, there will be a display of kindness.If you want her to hug you more, hug her instead.If you want to hear more from her, talk to her.You can model the behavior that you want to see.
Step 10: Give her a compliment.
People like being praised and often times kindness will linger with them even after the moment has passed.It's a good idea to let your sister know about the special attributes that she has.Is your sister smart or dumb?Let her know you think so.She can be told that she is pretty.But be careful.If you tell your sister that you don't like her looks, she might dress or do the things you said she was good at.She doesn't want you to give her false information.
Step 11: Go for a walk.
It is a great way to clear the air and recenter your sister's relationship.You can invite her to walk with you.This can give you a chance to talk to each other and develop your bond.
Step 12: Trust can be established.
The trust between you may be broken if your sister is unkind to you.The trust in your relationship needs to be built.Sharing secrets with each other is one way to build trust.Make a pact to keep the secret by telling each other one thing that the other doesn't know.Another way to build trust is through honesty.Ask your sister to be honest with you about how she hurts you.Being nice to your sister doesn't mean you should lie to her.You should keep your promises.If you tell your sister that you will do something for her, then do it.If you are reliable, your sister will trust you more.
Step 13: Talk to her.
Communication can be used to develop bonds.If you're interested in knowing more about your sister's day, school, work, friends, or any other topic, sit down and have a discussion with her.People will often open up if asked questions, and they enjoy talking about themselves.This will show your sister that you are interested in her life and will bring you closer together.If you want to start a conversation with your sister, you can say something like "how was your day?", but if she doesn't reply "what was the best part"?Discuss the latest soccer game or your favorite soccer player with your sister if you both love soccer.
Step 14: Try something new.
One way to bond with your sister is to do something you have never done before.If you want to deepen your bond and give yourself new memories, explore a new hobby or conquer your fears together is a great way to do it.You can try a lot of things, from riding a roller coaster for the first time to binge watching a show.Your relationship will grow.Other ways include cooking, exercising, taking a class, or dancing.
Step 15: Together, play games.
Take some time to have fun with your sister.You can play a board game with her.Laughter can go a long way in repairing bonds and games are often very fun.
Step 16: Good memories should be remembered.
Even though he has been mean, you and your sister have shared some memories.It will be easier to be nice to her if you think about those good times.Take out the old photo albums and look at the memories.You can use your social media accounts to pull up photos.
Step 17: Consider when she began to be mean.
It is possible that your sister is upset about something you have done to her in the past.Think about the ways in which you may have offended or hurt her if she was previously sweet to you.You should apologize for any wrongdoing.After self reflection and an honest evaluation of your relationships, you may discover that you have done some bad things in your relationship with your sister.You should apologize to her for any specific things that you have done.
Step 18: Talk to your sister about clarity.
If you find it hard to identify a time when you hurt your sister, talk to her.She may have been caused pain by something you did to her.You can try using a talking stick.Some Native American tribes use a talking stick to have a constructive conversation.The premise is that you have an item that is held when speaking and only the person holding that item can speak.Once the speaker is done speaking, the item is transferred to the person who is holding it.This way of fostering communication is respectful and based on purely listening.I statements can be used.Don't be accusatory if your sister has hurt you.Say "I feel hurt by what you said" instead of "you are mean"It's a way of communicating your feelings of hurt or anger.
Step 19: Practice self reflection.
Sometimes it can be difficult to admit that the problems we see in others are also within us.Be aware of your interactions with your sister and consider your facial expressions, tone, and things you say or don't say.It is possible that you have been mean to your sister as well, and that small changes in your behavior can improve your relationship.Do you frown when your sister speaks?Practice smiling.Maybe you want to speak to her.It's better to practice using a calmer tone.
Step 20: You should talk to your parents.
The people who know the most about your relationship with your sister are your parents.They can give you advice specific to the issues in your relationship as well as information on how to correct it.Conflict resolution is something your parents have dealt with before.See what they have done to repair their own relationships with siblings.
Step 21: Ask your friends if they have siblings.
It's a good idea to talk to your friend with a sibling about what they do to manage their relationship when it gets stressed or when they want to do nice things for their siblings.Speak to your sister's friends if you have mutual friends.They have the same knowledge of you as your parents.They may have advice on how to improve your relationship with your sister.
Step 22: Write your feelings down.
Talking or thinking about something isn't enough to provide full clarity.Take some time to think about your sister, good and bad, as well as your thoughts about the relationship.This can help you understand how to move forward.
Step 23: Take ten.
If your sister is being mean to you, take a moment to calm yourself.Take a step away from the situation and count to ten.Don't let your anger get the better of you and say mean or untrue things.
Step 24: Don't judge your sister.
Your sister may still be mean to you even after all of this kindness.Continue to love her.You don't want to be judged the same way as she has done.Forgiveness can be practiced daily.