It can be hard to talk to women if you are shy.Pick up artists help men approach women with confidence.Learning how to do it will take time and practice, but if you are willing to make the effort, the results will be worth it.
Step 1: You can choose a method of study.
There are many different styles of pick up artistry and different teachers who teach or advocate for different methods.Pick the one that feels most organic to who you are as a person and research the different styles of seduction.Mystery, Ross Jeffries, and David DeAngelo are some of the different gurus.David DeAngelo believes that you can improve your seduction skills by talking to lots of different women.Mystery is the most famous pick up artist and has trained many of the other pickers working today.He wants women to talk immediately upon entering the room.In coffee shops, Ross Jeffries likes to talk to women during the day.The goal of teaching men self-confidence and communication skills is to improve their experiences with women.There are many forums on the internet devoted to analyzing different methods of study.Before pursuing a specific method, do research.There are boot camps for aspiring pick up artists.These camps are expensive and don't offer much beyond what you can get for free online.
Step 2: A good wingman can be found.
A wingman is a huge asset for a pickup artist; they are there to set you up, to make you look good and to help you get comfortable as you are meeting and talking to new women.Choose a friend you can trust and who likes to have a good time, but not so good that they can't focus on the task at hand.Look for a wingman with a serious girlfriend.You will not be competing for the same women.Don't choose a wingman who is more attractive than you.Someone is equal to you.
Step 3: Talk to women often.
The only way to get better at learning to talk to women is through repetition and study.Time should be set aside each week to pick up women.Either bring your wingman with you or try to do it on your own.Goal setting can be done with clear, accomplishable goals.If you want to get a phone number, you have to talk to five women a week.The more time you spend training, the less anxious you will be when talking to women.
Step 4: Get yourself out there.
If you want to become a pick up artist, you have to leave your house.The more places you go, the more opportunities you will have to meet women.You can meet a lot of women at bars and clubs on weekends because they are usually crowded.You need to take out your headphones.You can not have a conversation with someone if you don't know they are next to you.
Step 5: The original pick up line should be used.
Nothing makes a woman feel less special than hearing the same line over and over again.A pick up line is designed to break the ice, start a conversation and put a woman at ease.If you don't know what to say, make a joke or comment."You're so beautiful, you made me forget my pick up line."The best line is what feels natural to you.It's never a good idea to pretend to be something you're not.Don't "neg" a woman.A compliment designed to undermine a woman's confidence is called "negging".negging a woman will put her on the defensive.
Step 6: Don't be passive in the conversation.
The first step is starting the conversation.When you convince a woman to talk to you, you need to listen to what she has to say.Ask her about her job and what she does for fun.Don't think about what to say next.It is much easier to craft your responses if you listen to what she is saying.Don't talk about yourself all the time.You want to get to know her, not impress her.
Step 7: Speak instead of asking questions.
A woman may feel like she is in the middle of a job interview if she asks too many questions.You can make a few assumptions to avoid this.Try to guess, instead of asking where she's from.Say, "You're from around here, right?"The woman will correct you if you're wrong.She will be impressed by your insight, and that will help propel the conversation.
Step 8: Stand up straight by planting your feet in a single spot.
Humans are very sensitive to body language.Women feel more at ease around you if you plant your feet.You don't want women to worry that you're going to attack or follow them if you approach them on the street.When talking to women, make sure to look in their eyes.It makes you look nervous.
Step 9: It's a bad idea to eat on a first date.
Don't ask the woman to dinner when you reach the point in the conversation where you would normally ask her out.If you're on your first date, offer a different option than dinner because a table creates a physical barrier.Ask her to go for a walk or coffee.Be affectionate on the date.You can help her from her car or take her coat by touching her shoulders.This will help you figure out if there is chemistry between you.Before you kiss, make sure there is chemistry between you.If a woman asks you to stop, do so immediately.
Step 10: You have to eat and exercise.
To feel confident talking to women, you need to be confident about how you present yourself.Change your diet and go to the gym if you feel self-conscious about your body.You can pick up women without a six-pack.Get your body to a place where you feel good.You can try to connect with a woman if you find an exercise regimen that you are passionate about.Ask her what kind of exercise she likes to do, then talk about it.
Step 11: You should pay attention to your appearance.
Adding some new options to your wardrobe will increase your confidence and make you look more stylish and pulled together.The importance of personal hygiene or grooming should not be underestimated.Before you go out on the town, take a shower and shave.Don't put on too much cologne, but clip your nails, because the devil is in the details.
Step 12: You should develop your sense of humor.
Laughing makes people at ease and makes a woman feel comfortable around you.If you aren't naturally funny, consider taking a class.This will make you feel more confident making jokes and will help you tap into your natural sense of humor.You can break the ice with a few go-to jokes or lines.Think about what makes you happy.It will be easier to write jokes that will make other people laugh if you understand what tickles you.
Step 13: Get your own place.
Women want to meet men.If you are still living with your parents, you should consider moving out.It will be easier for you to have women over if you have your own place.Get a job if you don't already have one.Women want to talk to men who are self-sufficient.It will be easy for you to meet new people if you have a place in a centralized area.