If you have been hanging out with someone special for a while, you might feel like it is time to propose.If you are thinking about asking someone to be your official girlfriend, be aware that you might be freaked out.You can get the question out as painlessly as possible if you plan ahead just a little.If she likes you back, you might be able to get a girlfriend.
Step 1: Get to know her well.
If you want to ask someone to be your girlfriend, you might already know a bit about her.You can chat with her and find out what she likes, dislikes, and hobbies are.A casual hand touch or compliment would work great here, if you feel up to it.If you are more comfortable talking in a group setting, you can chat with her one on one.If you have been on a few dates before, you know a lot about her.
Step 2: She is at the right time.
When there isn't a lot of distraction or people listening, try to pick a time to talk.You can meet up in a public park, take a walk around the block, or head to a small coffee shop.You can save your question if the timing doesn't feel right or you run into a group of people.Don't be pressured to ask if it's right.
Step 3: There is a light conversation.
Tell her a funny story, or ask what she has been up to.There is no rush if you want to ask her to be your girlfriend.Compliments are great if you don't know what to say.You can ask questions like, "So how is work going?" or "Have you been staying cool in the hot weather?"
Step 4: Ask her to be your girlfriend if you admit your feelings.
Take the conversation to a more serious place when there is a lull.If she would like to be your girlfriend, tell her that you like her.This is the most difficult part, but you can do it."So we've been hanging out for a while, and I'm starting to have feelings for you."I feel like I know you so well, would you like to be my girlfriend?I want to know if you would like to be my girlfriend.
Step 5: No matter what her response is, respond calmly.
It is time to celebrate if she says yes.How nervous you were about asking her, you can smile, laugh, and confess.You can move the conversation in another direction from there.Don't worry if she says no because she's not ready to be in a relationship.It doesn't have much to do with you anyway, because everyone's situation is different.You can either hang out with her or go home.
Step 6: Don't be mean to her.
Get to know her before you try to progress to something else.She likes to do things for fun to see if you would be a good match.If you have feelings for each other, this will give you time to figure it out.
Step 7: Ask her to spend time with you.
Once you reach a level of friendship that allows the two of you to hang out without being in a group, invite her to spend some time with you alone.You can go to a park, coffee shop, or dinner.If you want to be cautious, you should ask her to visit a different coffee shop or park that you have both talked about visiting.If you want to be bolder, ask her to spend the afternoon or evening with you.She can be taken out for a meal, a show, or a night of dancing.
Step 8: Give her a small, inexpensive gift.
Unless you frequently throw gifts her way, a gift lets the girl know that there is something different about your time together this day when compared to any other day.She likes a bouquet of flowers or a box of chocolates.It is not necessary to give her a gift if it does not feel right.You two have an inside joke that you could give her.
Step 9: Tell her how you are.
Tell her that you have something important to say after you've enjoyed each other's company.You should tell her that you want her to be your girlfriend if you have her undivided attention.Try something like, "I really enjoy spending time with you and consider you an important part of my life."I have feelings for you past those of friendship.I would like to go out with you if you feel the same way.
Step 10: No matter what she says, accept it.
You are in the clear if she says yes.You can celebrate the fact that you two are together.Take a few selfies to remember the moment.It is okay if she does not accept.As you look for romance somewhere else, you can continue to hang out with your friends.
Step 11: A casual conversation is the best way to start it.
A simple opener will get the conversation going.You can ask her what she has been up to, how her day is going, or what her plans are for the weekend.It doesn't lead to much if you try to avoid a simple "hey".Try something like that.Got any plans for the nice weather this weekend?
Step 12: Ask her about the day.
Continue with your conversation as smoothly as possible.You can either ask her questions about her day or see where the conversation leads naturally.Good examples include, "How are you feeling today?" "What have you been up to?" and "Did you have a nice day off?"You can try it again another day if she doesn't reply.
Step 13: Send her a compliment or a message.
As you text, try to compliment her or tell her how much you miss her.There is a balance between being sweet and laying it on too thick.You could say things like, "You always make me laugh" or "I wish I could see your pretty face right now."
Step 14: Tell her that you like her
If she likes you too, let her know.You don't have to be serious about it, so keep it casual.This is a text conversation.If you can't meet up or live far away, try something like, "Hey, so I really like you."
Step 15: Speak directly to the question.
It is time to ask the big question after you confess your feelings.Even if it makes you nervous, send that text message.You will never know if you don't ask.You could say, "I'd love it if we could make our relationship official" or "Will you be my girlfriend?"
Step 16: Accept her reply graciously.
If she says yes.You can either meet her face to face or call her to let her know you're happy.Your efforts paid off, and now you have a girlfriend.That is okay if she says no.If you can, let her know that you respect her decision.